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You can't hate me anymore...now in the US of A

Sunday, May 06, 2007

8 years after the brutal beating death of Matthew Shepard and dozens of other youths across the United States, the US House of Representatives was still hesitant about voting in protection for individuals claiming human rights abuse based on their sexuality.
Finally, last Friday, the HoR voted 237 to 180 and passed the law to extend hate-crime protection to people victimized because of their sexuality.

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My week in a sentence...er...i mean, paragraph.

Sunday, April 01, 2007

Monday, March 26, 2007 - Provincial elections in Quebec. I went to vote, but unfortunately, couldn't, reason being, I haven't "officially" moved from NL (filled out a form with my new address). True, I didn't… Still, I wanted to vote for anyone but ADQ, Action Democratique du Quebec, an ultra right-wing party gaining power in Quebec. In fact, they gained so much power, they bumped Parti Quebecois, the province's leftist sovereignist party into the third place, getting in this way the balance of power in the first Quebec minority government in 129 years.


Tuesday, March 27, 2007 - I showed "The Laramie Project", the film about Matthew Sheppard to my high school students, in an effort to create some sensitivity around the issue of gay rights.

For the most part, the students took it well. One student who wasn't answering questions I put out for the class to answer ("What is happening in the movie?" and "how do the characters feel?") said he couldn't answer them because as a Roman Catholic, he thought it went against his religion. I told him writing what he sees does not go against his religion. I think he was just being lazy. At one point, I lost the attention of the class. Everyone was talking, few were listening, and since regular talk doesn't work with these boys and girls, I yelled at the top of my lungs and gave them a lesson on how they should always show compassion to others, no matter who the others are. I was so angry to have lost their attention, I think they (and me, too) were frightened of my facial expression after my fit. I looked at my supervisor after giving this "talk". She looked traumatized.


Wednesday, March 28, 2007 - Hanna, my Albanian student who is going to Kosova in just two months, presented her PhD research proposal at McGill on the state of Kosovar women in post-war Kosova. It was beautifully done. She has a great grasp of Kosovar culture, despite not being from there and despite only spending two weeks in Kosova a couple of years ago. After the proposal, we went to the McGill graduate student bar, where, out of all people, I saw my friend Ed who is usually in St.John's, so seeing him at the bar was super surprising. Hana and one of her friends had whiskey and cookies to celebrate (aside from their meal)…I stuck to water, roast beef sandwich (with horrible honey mustard seeds…ack…) and Oreo cheesecake…yummmm…


Thursday, March 29, 2007 - I went to a public discussion at McGill on racial profiling and police brutality. It was of particular interest to me because Khadijah Bennis, Anas Bennis' sister was there. I am writing a paper on Anas. Anas Bennis was shot twice by Montreal police on December 1, 2005, but no official version of the incident was given by the police, except for a short media release that said it was an act of self-defense because apparently, Anas Bennis, as he came out of the morning prayers from the mosque, made a run for the two officers on the street while he held a kitchen knife on his hand. The investigation, completed and finalized, was never submitted to the public, reason being "national security". A video from a neighbouring Bell Canada building, showing Anas Bennis being shot by the policeman was confiscated by the Montreal police and was never released to the family or shown to them. Khadijah said she doesn't know what that means because Anas was never implicated in any terrorist links.


Friday, March 30, 2007 - I interviewed Khadijah Bennis for my research paper. She is a super strong woman to be able to handle interview after interview after interview. I felt guilty for asking her to do another one, but she was very friendly and helpful. After the interview, I looked out onto St.Catherine street, where hundreds were coming and going everywhere, and I wondered why it had to be him, why we're so evil and mean, why we shun those different from us. It's naïve to ask these questions, but they are things that haunt me on an ongoing basis. I am saddened to see people like Khadijah who have lost a loved one, yet continue to hope for an explanation they so rightly deserve.


I went shopping so I would feel a bit better, though it didn't quite make a difference. I kept thinking about this young man and his death and how he died. He was not much older than me.


In the evening, Miranda Bradshaw, whom I was supposed to go dancing with, decided she is not into dancing and invited me to join her to visit Miss Chatterbox instead. We did, and had a lovely time. Miss Chatterbox is super-funny, witty and smart, and Mr Chatterbox is just as kind. They have a wonderful apartment at quite a good location and apparently, a great landlady.


I met Baroness Phoenicia, who loves dancing and hates photos. I am looking forward to going shaking it with her…


It was a wonderful night that ended at around 4 am (time I went to bed), only to start again two hours later for my weekend tennis club shift…la vita e bella :) ....By the way, these are Miranda Bradshaw's new shoes, not mine :P


Saturday, March 31 - A flirting session sprang from a regular chat with an acquaintance I met in Montreal six months ago. I told him I wanted to see him before we left and then he started saying he liked me, bla bla bla…We're going out for tea on Monday night.


Later on, my neighbour dropped by. A mix of Moroccan and Chinese ancestry, this young man is quite interesting. Two days ago, he knocked on my door and said he liked my music (Mika) and was wondering if he could borrow my CD. Last night, we had dinner together, where he revealed he is into transgendered women, though he doesn't like to call himself bi or gay because he still likes straight women. So I asked him if he was into guys and he added he liked very feminine guys…Hmmm, interesting. I'm glad I'm out of the picture :)


Over chinese noodles and his spices (he brought spices from his studio), we chatted about lots of things. He talked about how his mother is so controlling and how he only told his father, who said it's ok for him to be with men, but with transgendered women, that was pushing it a bit.


Sunday, April 01, 2007 - I started research for a paper due in two days on provincial jurisdiction drawn by the British North America Act of 1867. I may get to finish it up, though something tells me I won't. I've got dinner with Miranda Bradshaw and her buddies…it's her birthday.

The members of the tennis club are still talking about my table accident. Someone suggested today that the damage be reduced from my pay. Four others exclaimed that would be unfair and the person shut up. Oh, well, I suppose no more nice Arbër for him :)…


Today, I found out I won CAD $30 million on lotto 6/49.

















$30 million? Ummm, nah, just an April fools' joke :)

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Iran, where sex change operations are included in your healthcare plan

Wednesday, March 21, 2007

I never thought this could be true, but I googled it and after reading some super-odd articles, i found out that yes, apparently, sex change operations are permitted in Iran and even subsidized by the government.

This is shockingly liberal for a regime nowadays seen as repressive of women's and gay rights. It's incredible, in fact, to know that the government of Iran pays part of the expenses required for sex-change operations for the Iranian transgender community. In most western societies, the government doesn't pay for gender-changing surgeries.

In the 1960s , Khomeini, who overthrew the Shah, took a stance on Iran's transgender community and said that

"if somebody wants to undergo a sex change because he feels trapped inside someone else's body, he has the right to get rid of this body and transform into the other sex, and he is also entitled to new identification documents, in order to put an end to his plight."

Apparently, changing genders does not go against Islam's norms. The sex change is also justified in cases of healthy gay men and women who, in an effort to escape the persecution they face as gays and lesbians in Iran, opt for a change of gender. Going through the operation means relative freedom to have intimate relations with other men or women, within the limits of the rules on public life in Iran.

The other side of the paradox is that if someone is proven to have had homosexual relations (I don't like the word "homosexual", but here, I am forced to use it) and there are three witnesses who can attest to the fact of seeing the person vis-a-vis engaged in gay sex, that is, while the person is having sex, the statements are taken as evidence in a government court and used against them to ultimately result in sentences that start with 100 lashes on the back and, in extreme cases, a public hanging. This process comes from an old, archaic interpretation of Sharia law, the Islamic code and is used for various matters, including punishing acts of extramarital relations, robbery, etc.

Now, CBC Television aired a documentary on February 18th on gay rights in Iran titled Out of Iran: The Persecution of Homosexuals in the Islamic Republic of Iran, which some You Tube fan uploaded immediately after the documentary was shown on TV. The documentary, filmed and produced by Farid Heerinejad and narrated by the CBC TV's Sunday Night host, Evan Solomon, shows some extraordinary men who stand up for their rights in a country where standing up for your rights could pose a life danger, especially if you are a gay man or woman. We see and hear Iranian activists and founding members of IRQO [Iranian Queer Organization, previously known as] the PGLO, the Persian Gay and Lesbian Organization, founded just a couple of years ago to combat homophobia in Iran and to provide gay Iranians with a virtual meeting space, online and in person.

We hear stories of a man and a MTF (male-to-female) transgendered woman who are tortured, physically and psychologically, by their surroundings. The man talks about being gang-raped by the members of Iran's secret service. The woman speaks out on the anger her family feels towards her sexuality, ordering her to stay in her bedroom and never go out.

Sadly, where Out of Iran seems to lack substance is in the narration of the documentary. In fact, Solomon's way of talking is so sensationalist, at one point, you feel like you're watching some reality TV show where someone is about to win something big time ("…and the BIG winner is….!"). In the same pattern, pejorative vocabulary used to portray Iran as hell for gay men and women is a slight bit far-fetched. Of course, as a conservative regime-ruled country, Iran is a dangerous place to be gay in, but it is equally dangerous to be a moderate woman, to walk around in the public without a head covering, to oppose the government, to speak out for secularism, to defend Jews (though, this one, with close to 30.000 Jews in Tehran, is also arguable).

Solomon proves once again his love for anything anti-Islamic and pro-Jewish, and though this documentary has nothing to do with Jews, it indirectly helps further the reasoning used by Israel to prove that Iran is a threat to the world.

Evan Solomon makes reference to two men who were executed in Iran two years ago for allegedly "homosexual activities" and who have caused international uproar in the human rights community worldwide. Official human rights sources say it's unclear whether or not these two men were executed for being gay or for other reasons, including sexually assaulting a 13-year old boy. This has not been proven partly due to closed-door and hidden-evidence court processes, as Human Rights Watch and Amnesty International have repeatedly stated in the past.

A number of primarily North American publications, including Gay City News ran the story as one of a gay execution, which provoked dozens of protests against the executions. Pet Shop Boys apparently dedicated a song to the two executed men on their new album.

Scott Long of the Human Rights Watch says it's hard to prove whether or not the case was that of a gay execution, due to a - the families' feeling humiliated, b - the court process being closed to the public and c - the general public fearing government reaction if they speak out on specific cases. It is not even a question that Iran would execute men for homosexual acts. In fact, according to the International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Association, though not proven, it is alleged that 96 men and women have been hanged in 2005 for various reasons that may include sexuality [IGLHRA does not specify]. It's not what I am questioning in this post. What I am wondering about is the sensationalist nature to the media reports that attribute any slight suspicion to a fact and make gossip the truth.

Rather, what CBC TV and Gay City News, among other media outlets, seem to be doing is enforcing the culture of "Iran is bad, we are good". As an Iranian gay activist filmmaker testifies in a video taken at a Human Rights Watch forum in NYC last year, this sort of sensationalist reporting is causing further marginalization of gay rights issues in countries like Iran and Iraq. When Americans urge the US Army, an occupying force, to protect Iraq's gays, they mean well, but what they end up contributing to is an association of Iraq's gays with the occupier, that is, the United States. As a result, Iraqi/Irani gays are seen as products of the American occupation/influence.

Secondly, the reporting clearly aimed at furthering the journalists' careers is another Canadian/American media push for public reactions against Iran's current government. In fact, the documentary is part of the anti-Iran and pro-American republican foreign policy propaganda. Sadly, what is true is hard to distinguish from media bias nowadays, there's that much of it everywhere.

Yes, the government of Iran has many problems and Ahmadinejad is not exactly the smartest person to be in power (whoever denies the Holocaust is missing a few marbles), and no, the mullahs should not have a slight bit of power, but in the end, things are not always so black and white.

We can't continue to impose our way of living on others, but we can support them in doing so and protect them when feel compelled to do it. Iranian/Iraqi/Middle Eastern activists cannot solve the issues on their own, of course they need our help. Perhaps they simply need to know that up until 1970, the Western world thought all gays were literally mad and if it weren't for those who stood up for their own rights, we would still live in a Canada of mental hospitals for curing homosexuality. In fact, we would still live like in parts of the United States, where some of those hospitals still exist. It's inspiring to see young Iranian gay s stand up for their rights, despite the risk involved. Unfortunately, it will take many of those men and women to show Iran that it cannot continue denying the existence of homosexuality within its society.

For that matter, it will take just as many Kosovar gay men and women to prove that being gay is not a western import. Sadly, though free of extrajudicial executions, Kosova is not far from Iran in its treatment of gays and lesbians. To be gay in Kosova means to be branded and peder, the Albanian and Serbian equivalent of faggot, is the worst word you could say to someone. It comes to show the kind of thinking that still exists in today's Kosova.

Sources used:


Biased Reporting - Gay Executions in Iran? - excerpt from a Human Rights Watch panel [YouTube]

Gays feed into Anti-Gay Hysteria - excerpt from a Human Rights Watch panel [YouTube]

Out of Iran - The Persecution of Homosexuals in the Islamic Republic of Iran - CBC Television [You Tube]

Iran - Have a Sex-Change on Us - Report from the "Al-Arabiya" TV network[YouTube]

Reported Executions in Iran
- International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commission


Iran Hacks Web Sites to burry anti-gay pogrom - Doug Ireland [reporter for Gay City News]


Transsexuality in Iran - Big Queer Blog

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